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What it is like living with anxiety and depression.

7/16/2017

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     The amount of times I have tried to write this post is astonishing. I've written it on bad days when I was trying to get words on screen. And on good days when I was too preoccupied with trying to get "happier" posts up. But I'm sitting down and I'm focused. I haven't had a really bad or a really good day. I'm sort of at an in between state which can be seen as a neutral, which funnily enough is what most people call "normal."
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     Living with anxiety and depression is exhausting. Anyone who lives with any mental illness can probably attest to that. Living with several however just makes you tired all the time. There are days when you don't want to get out of bed or face anyone. There are days when just putting on clothes makes you exhausted. 

     It makes every day a struggle of fighting your mind that tells you that "You are worthless" "You are alone" "You are not enough" and, on bad days, believing it. But it is also you telling your mind to shut up and reminding yourself that "You are enough" "You are NOT alone" and "You are worth more than anything this world has to offer."

      Living with anxiety and depression is texting your friends back right away and then wondering if you texted them to quickly, and avoiding talking on the phone because phone calls you can't see how their responding. It is also being scared to fail but being too tired to be productive. It is wanting to succeed but not having the motivation to do it. 
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      It is craving bed time because then you can escape for a little while but also dreading it because when it is silent, your mind is on full blast. 

      Because of my anxiety, I've learned to avoid any type of situations that make me uncomfortable but I also want to do new things and create new experiences. I want to travel to places unknown but am terrified of being by myself and getting lost. I want to experience festivals, cons, and amusement parks and not have to worry about what other people think of me. I've become accustomed to hiding behind people or standing off to the side when people do happened to get me to go out. 
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     Living with any kind of mental illness makes every day a battle, a war you did not sign up for.

     But throughout that long battle, you can find that your voice can shake trees and move mountains. That's what its like for me. There are my bad days, days that I don't think I can face the world, days that I can't move but have to because I need to go to work because work=money and money=being able to live on my own. Those days are tough, those are the days I need to put my armor and walk into battle, scared to face my demons alone.

     But on those bad days, I have to remind myself that I am not in this alone. I have an army to help me fight. I have friends, both in-person and online that stand by my side. These friends and family that stand by my side, do so without my asking, because I am unafraid to talk about what I am facing.

   Through dealing with my anxiety and depression, I've learned to advocate for mental health awareness in a society that tells people who suffer from it that "it's not real" or "you're just looking for attention" or "you're not really sick." I've learned to speak up for my fellow warriors in this daily battle. 
   
    Living with anxiety and depression is very real. And thousands of people do it every day. Yet, society still treats it as taboo. This is 2017 and the sooner people realize that it’s not "all in our heads" then the sooner we might be a better society.
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     I do have to say a big thank you to all the influencers, celebrities, rock stars, etc. who advocate for mental health awareness. More and more people who have a voice that can be heard over everyone are opening up and talking to their fans, to the world about mental health awareness. And because of that, more and more people are being heard, and more and more people are reaching out for help. 
     Like mentioned several times above, living with anxiety and depression is tough, exhausting, and overwhelming but living with any type of mental illness in a world that maybe is not so judgmental, might make it a little easier on us.
     We are people too. 
​     Until next time lovelies,
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9 years working on managing my anxiety and depression but I am still here, still fighting. And I will always keep fighting 
18 Comments
Annita West link
7/17/2017 08:11:41 am

...and YOU are brave, talented and just filled with awesomeness!

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Mikayla
7/18/2017 12:17:14 pm

Thank you!

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Courtney
7/17/2017 03:30:13 pm

This post is amazing! It's seldom when others open up about mental illnesses, and the fact that you have the courage to do it is just wonderful. You are a beautiful person, and I hope your message reaches the world.

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Mikayla
7/17/2017 07:43:02 pm

Aww thank you so much! I agree about people seldom opening up about mental illnesses and I get that it is hard to do, trust me I do. It took me a month to finally work up the courage the send it to my friends to edit it, but I know that sometimes people with mental illnesses just need to know that there is someone out there who gets what they're going to if they ever need someone to talk to. So it means a lot to me that someone likes this post, and I hope the same thing-I just want other survivors to know I'm here. They're not alone. Thank you<3

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Jenn link
7/18/2017 12:12:35 pm

You are so very brave to talk about your journey. I know it's hard, and scary when you have those episodes. I think your honesty shows how much you've come along and hopefully, it will help others.

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Mikayla
7/18/2017 12:25:28 pm

Thank you. That's all I hope for. I remember being completely and utterly alone while trying to face this and I don't want anyone to EVER feel like I did.

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Diana link
7/18/2017 12:22:16 pm

Giiiirl, this is so on point. I myself struggle with depression and anxiety and am glad that celebrities are beginning to talk about it but I know we still have a way to go. Thank you for being so brave!

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Mikayla
7/18/2017 12:35:29 pm

Agreed. But at least we're are making steps in the right direction. That's what I have to keep hoping for.

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Sam link
7/18/2017 12:29:45 pm

A super brave post. Congratulations! It's well done.

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Mikayla
7/18/2017 12:35:52 pm

Thank you

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Freydís Leifsdóttir link
7/18/2017 02:36:41 pm

Is the semicolon tattoo yours? I also have one. Very important blogpost and you are so brave!

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Mikayla
7/18/2017 03:38:09 pm

Yes! I got it back in January because my fall semester of school took a really big toll on me mentally and physically so I got it as a reminder to always keep fighting.

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Aimee link
7/18/2017 03:10:23 pm

So strong of you to write this post- I suffer from anxiety and unfortunately know all you wrote all too well--

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Mikayla
7/18/2017 03:53:19 pm

The only reason I am strong enough to write this post is because of the overwhelming support I have gotten online and in real life from fellow survivors and family and friends. Just remember you are not alone in this fight<3

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Beatriz
7/18/2017 10:00:31 pm

Your post is so R E A L, I'm completely blown away because I can relate. To write about an experience so deep is brave of you girl, you have such a beautiful soul. Keep doing what you're doing, you are NOT alone.

-lots of love, BEA

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Mikayla
7/19/2017 08:21:20 am

Thank you. All I wanted to do with this was to be real with everyone. Your kind words make me so happy.

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jackie link
7/19/2017 12:33:13 am

I relate to a lot of what you've written but I haven't been diagnosed with anything of late (depression when I was 21, that was 16 years ago and not since then). I've considered going to see a therapist because sometimes at night my mind is seriously my worst enemy. Like I basically believe that I'm the worst mother and that no one, not even my husband or parents love or can stand me, only my two kiddies. Thank you for being so honest about this. I want to subscribe to your site to read more.

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Mikayla
7/19/2017 08:31:09 am

I recently just went to see my therapist who recommended a fellow woman in her practice who did sort of a hypnosis sort of deal. Basically I went and had a one hour session which consisted of me closing my eyes and relaxing and she would talk to my unconscious self about what I wanted to accomplish and such...That's a really bad explanation but it was a big help because when I felt bad or low, what she taught me really helped me out. It doesn't work for everyone but it was a nice place to start, especially because now I know her practice and can do it to myself if need be.
Those thoughts are your mind trying to take advantage of you, don't let them win. You are enough. You are worth more than anything. You are a great woman. Sometimes you just need to remind yourself of that.
I am working on getting subscribes down, still slightly confused by all that.

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