As I hit the little orange button that puts these posts live for everyone to see, I am sitting in a hotel, with one of my best friends, surrounded by a gaggle of gifts she brought from her family, trying to plan out what we are going to do today, in one of the busiest cities in America.
21 years ago on a very windy 76 degree day in April, my mother gave birth to me. I came into the world surrounded by loved ones and I, thankfully, am still surrounded by loved ones, although they are not just down the halls waiting to meet me for the first time. We are separated by miles and miles of land, some in different cities, some in different states, but none the less, I still feel the love that I felt when I was a baby.
Seeing as how I now have 21 years of life under my belt (shocking, I know), I wanted to share with y'all 21 pieces of truth that I sometimes wish people would have told me.
6. Love All, Judge None. (Fun fact: I actually want to get this tattooed on my body
somewhere as daily reminder for myself).
7. Pray. Life is definitely a challenge for everyone. No one has everything figured out. But what
I have come to learn from everything is that prayer is the best thing to do in every situation.
Got a good grade? Pray. Car broke down? Pray. Graduated? Pray.
8. Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have. I
cannot stress this enough (along with several other pieces of advice). If you do not love
yourself, how are you going to show others how love you?
9. Seize the day! (Excuse me while I just go ahead and bust out in the song from Newsies) As
cheesy and cliche as that sounds, do not let life past you by. There is a two lines in the song
from the play "Courage cannot erase our fear/Courage is when we face our fear" and I
cannot think of better advice to go with it.
10. Be in love with your life. Okay, this kind of goes with loving yourself, but I felt like this is
also it's separate advice.
11. It is never too late. Want to write a book? Go ahead. Want to go back to college? What's
stopping you. There are too many coulda, shoulda, woulda moments in life that a lot of
people come to regret (guilty!), do not build a collection of those moments.
12. Don't be afraid to love. I get that love can be scary. But so can traveling on an airplane by
yourself. You just got to put on your big girl boots, and lasso that bull... Okay, maybe not
the best example...
13. Let go. When you do fall in love but it is not right for you, know when something is toxic for
you and let it/them go. I know it might seem hard but sometimes that is the best thing to
14. Make playlists. For everything! For jam sessions with your bestie, for road trips, for bad
days and for good days.
15. Be fearless in what sets your soul on fire. Do not hold back. Go for that dream job you
always wanted. Spend your weekends writing outdoors instead in an office.
16. Think before you speak! Anger controls your words. Do not let emotion cloud your
judgement because you should not lose a friend over a heated tongue.
17. Find the balance. Sometimes you need to put that extra slice of pizza down, but
sometimes you need the night with your girls. Don't let your life fall into one spectrum.
18. Quit looking at the past, focus on the future. Yes your past may define you-it tells the
world where you came from, but the future is where you are going. The future holds
19. Always carry cash. (Thanks Kelsey) Plastic is nice but you never know when you will see a
street performer and actually want to give them a tip. (Or in Kels' sense-force your best
friend into a picture she was not prepared for)
20. Do not take life too seriously. Know that to get through life, you need a fair few of laughs.
Don't be a stick-in-the-mud.
21. A bad day can always be made good with a home-cooked meal. As an independent
college student (and a hardcore foodie) there is nothing better after a long and tiring day
than a home cooked meal (whether it is made by you or your stellar roommate.
April 29th, 2016-21 Years of age.
"If it scares you, it might be a good thing..."